As a Woman have you ever heard or said any of these sentences for another Woman ???
"She is just concerned about her career and doesn't care about her kids and husband."
"She doesn't do anything, she is just a housewife and still keeps a maid for household chores,doesn't do anything."
"Don't understand what is the need to do job right now when her child is so small, she should take care of her kids."
"She should support her husband establish his career, she can focus on her career later."
"She is ageing,She should get married."
"She is ageing, she should have kids."
"Why she is doing night shifts?"
The constant compulsion to prove ourselves, to prove our worth, to establish our identity,We women set standards and rules for ourselves and others forgetting that other women have equal right to make their own choices and standards in life.
So it is very commonly seen how an ardent homemaker with an unsound pride of sacrificing everything for her family is always ready to judge, compare and criticize working women for devoting more time to her profession and neglecting household duties and the working one's are always moving with a false ego of earning, multitasking and criticizing the homemakers for not doing anything worthwhile in their lives.Forgetting the very fact that another women who can be her mother, mother in-law or mostly house help are their backbone and without whose help everything can go haywire quickly.
This comparison, disrespect, negativity, criticism and unacceptability leads to guilt in both the segments....the working doubting if they are doing less for their family and homemakers feeling bad for not contributing monetarily.And in the haste to prove their capabilities the balance is lost leading to stress, physically, emotionally and mentally.
We forget that beyond the societal standards, their are personal choices and aspirations and every individual whether Men or Women deserve to fulfill them.In the name of tradition sometimes we set rules which doesn't allow, especially women to flourish in their life.We forget that Tradition is not about imitating previous generations.It is about learning from their experience and making the change.
It is also important to understand and accept the fact that everyone is responsible for their own happiness, As a part of the family women may be able to fulfill some basic requirements of family members but their happiness depends on their attitude and expectation.
So before Women expect Men in their lives to support them.It becomes moral and social duty of every women to support each other for the choices she is making in her life.It doesn't matter if a Woman wants to work, or wants to stay at home,Whether she wants to stay single or get married,whether she wants to do night shifts or day job, everyone is trying to live best according to their own capacity, situations, dreams and choices.
Whether a working woman or a homemaker staying at home and taking care of family both deserve same respect and motivation for choices they are making in their life.A Woman making different choices than societal standards and trying to prove herself in a man dominated world should not be criticized and doubted especially by other woman.
So next time whether it is your Sister, Sister in-law, Mother , Mother in-law, Friend, daughter, daughter in-law, or any other women trying to make her own choices, stop comparing, stop criticizing and start supporting.
Because when Women support Women it can lead to wonderful World where only rules are love and appreciation for each other and only standard is progress, growth and development of women-hood physically, mentally, economically and socially.
So let us abandon the need to just come together and gossip.let us come together to heal, assist, grow and prosper.....Giving rise to a new era of Womanhood.......